What I Hear When You Tell Me to ‘Stop Being So Negative’

  

This is a common sentence many of us with mental illnesses get told.

“Just focus on something else.”

“There’s so much good in the world, stop focusing on the bad.”

You don’t think I have tried? For much of my life I have dealt with anxiety and depression.2 This means almost all the time I am either over-catastrophizing, staying on alert for the next bad thing that could happen, overanalyzing every mistake I’ve made, and after all that, getting stuck in a head space that constantly tells me I’m not good enough and never will be. This head space in the past has often led me to periods of self-harm and suicidal thoughts that never get acted upon but are always there in the back of my mind.

This never stops.

When a person tells me, “stop being so negative” it feels like a slap to the face. Basically you’re saying, “You can turn it off, you can choose to focus on something else.” While I may have times where I can put my focus into my friendships, my job, my school life and my hobbies, these things are also stressors and end up leading me back to depression and anxiety. Regardless how many good periods of time I have, depression and anxiety are always going to be there.

So next time you see a person or are talking with them and they are having a difficult time with their depression and anxiety and seem to be focused on the negative, don’t just say, “Stop focusing on the negative,” but instead, maybe ask what you can do to help. If they tell you there is nothing you can do, ask what the negative emotions are focused on? You may want to suggest helpful distractions or ways of coping. The statement “stop being so negative” just makes them feel bad for the depression and anxiety, and that’s honestly the last thing they need or want to hear. You may want to suggest they contact one of the practitioners at Rediscover Yourself to learn of a very successful drug free approach in dealing with these emotional problems.  Have them visit our website www.rediscoveryourselfint.com  and read some of the testimonials written by others who were having similar experiences. We are here to help you get the relief you have been searching for.

How to Prosper in your Wealth

We’ve all had moments in our lives where as soon as we get our hands on a little extra cash, something happens where we need to spend it on something we don’t want to. We kick and we scratch at the idea and curse that we are unlucky. We believe that we genuinely cannot get ahead because something will always happen once we do.

 

The universe has a funny way of reciprocating what you give to it. If you are giving the universe these negative thoughts, the universe will only return the favor. If we change our thoughts we might actually start to see a change in the way we receive.

 

Fear is a big factor in a lot of negative situations. We fear that we cannot move forward with positive thoughts because it seems too good to be true. We constantly fear that we will never have enough money. We fear that we will never find love or happiness. Instead of putting our energy into manifesting these actual desires that we fear, we put our energy into manifesting the fear that we have that comes along with those desires.

 

When trying to manifest prosperity, it is important to remember that the universe supplies us with an abundance of goods. It will always give us what we need when we need it. By trusting this process, you will start to ease some of that fear. It is good to practice this abundance theory. You can do this by counting the stars, or admiring all the grains of sand on the beach or feeling the grass beneath your feet and hands.

 

Another great technique to practice is noticing all the abundances that you have already received. Allow yourself to be thankful for every little thing in your life. Be thankful for your house, your electricity, your heat, your clothing, your plumbing, etc. And even though those things cost money, the universe has given you an abundance of wealth and has given you the ability to be responsible for those things. Thank the universe for allowing those things to encounter into your life and for the opportunities you were given to accept those things. Do not fear your bills, but rather appreciate them because they are a statement of all the things that you have earned through your hard work and trust.

 

It is also important that we keep an open mind. When our mind is open, more opportunities are drawn to us. It is best to not judge other people and how they spend their money either. By comparing how much wealth you have to another person only increases the gap of “failure.” Even though you have less money than that person does not mean you have failed; however, you are misplacing your energy onto how much you should have instead of how much you will receive. If you do compare money, always keep an open mind and appreciate their hard work and acknowledge their accomplishments. Giving support will only increase the support you receive.

 

By visualizing prosperity, wealth and abundance, you are sending out to the universe what you could have. Everyday you should tell yourself positive affirmations.

 

“I am open to all the universe has to offer.”

“I am open to the abundance the universe can give me.”

“Wealth is attracted to me everyday.”

“I bask in wealth and prosperity and I enjoy and receive it whole-heartedly.”

 

Everyday has the possibility of new beginnings. Rejoice in all of the possibilities and opportunities that are given to you. Recognize each moment as an opportunity to be receptive to wealth and new beginnings. Be open minded and supportive of others and their wealth. Be open minded about your own wealth. Release your fear and instead manifest your energy into the actual process instead of the fear of the process. Be thankful of all the abundances that you already have and thankful for the ones that you are about to receive. Be mindful of how you think about money and wealth. Trust that the universe will give you what you need when you need it. Do not worry about not having enough because your energy is then focused on the ‘not enough’ part instead of the ‘abundance of money’ part. Recognize each day and moment as your next opportunity to accept wealth.

 

What does your morning routine say about you?

If you’re the kind of person who likes to roll over the minute you hear the alarm and hit the snooze button, you might immediately be setting your day off on the wrong foot. If the first thoughts you have when you wake up are, “I wish I could just sleep more, I don’t want to go to work, I can’t get out of bed or keep my eyes open…” you might be setting yourself up for failure.

Thinking negative thoughts the moment you wake up is setting a negative pattern for your morning routine, which in turn can make your day negative. It is important to always remember that what you give out to the universe is what you receive. So instead of thinking to yourself that you feel too sleepy to do anything, and you just wish you had a few more hours of sleep, start the day off with a grateful thought. This could include thoughts like, “I’m so fortunate to wake up this morning.” Or “I am going to accomplish today.”

Immediately after you think these things, you should get up and start the day. You will feel so much better having a few extra minutes to get ready so you’re not rushed to work. Before you do anything, grab a glass of water and wake up your body by drinking it. By drinking water right when you wake up, you are fulfilling any lost fluids, detoxing your digestive track, waking up your mind and giving yourself energy. This is also a great weight loss technique and many people have found this helpful while trying to shed some pounds.

While you’re body is waking up and adjusting to the rhythms of the day, it is important to eat a nutrient rich breakfast that will keep you full and focused all morning. Hunger increases cortisol levels, aka the stress hormone. If you are already stressed enough with work, arriving there hungry won’t do you any good. It’s also good to pack little healthy snacks throughout the day so you’re not tempted by the breakroom goodies and midafternoon coffee runs. An apple has more natural sugars than coffee and gives you a better boost than the sugar rush you get from your coffee. If you want a healthier alternative, try eating an apple instead of a couple cups o Joe!

Mornings are the platform of your day. If you consistently hate mornings or even state that you hate mornings, you will be more inclined to have a bad morning. Here are some quick fixes to make your morning the best every morning.

  1. Daily affirmations: State what you want in life and how you are going to achieve it. You are what you think, and if you think positive thoughts and goals you will eventually achieve them.
  2. Stretch: If you have a little extra time in the morning stretch before you do anything. It will get your blood flowing throughout your body waking you up and gradually warming up your muscles. Yoga is also a great way to clear your mind and create a positive space.
  3. Meditation: By placing yourself in a relaxed state before the day even starts will allow you to take on many different challenges. Even if you practice for a couple minutes, you are giving your mind a fresh start. Sometimes long nights of sleep can be filled with stress dreams and tossing and turning. This gives you a fresh start.
  4. Prepare the night before: Pick out your outfit the night before. Plan what you are going to pack for lunch. Set up your briefcase or make sure your purse is set up with everything you need. Lay out your towels and robes. Do everything you possibly can the night before. You will feel more available in the morning to focus on things that are more important.

 

Whether you’re a morning person or not, it’s good to practice all of these habits and focus on the positives every morning. This will make you feel healthier and happier as well as giving you a great start to your day!

 

How to Prosper in Your Wealth

We’ve all had moments in our lives where as soon as we get our hands on a little extra cash, something happens where we need to spend it on something we don’t want to. We kick and we scratch at the idea and curse that we are unlucky. We believe that we genuinely cannot get ahead because something will always happen once we do.

The universe has a funny way of reciprocating what you give to it. If you are giving the universe these negative thoughts, the universe will only return the favor. If we change our thoughts we might actually start to see a change in the way we receive.

Fear is a big factor in a lot of negative situations. We fear that we cannot move forward with positive thoughts because it seems too good to be true. We constantly fear that we will never have enough money. We fear that we will never find love or happiness. Instead of putting our energy into manifesting these actual desires that we fear, we put our energy into manifesting the fear that we have that comes along with those desires.

When trying to manifest prosperity, it is important to remember that the universe supplies us with an abundance of goods. It will always give us what we need when we need it. By trusting this process, you will start to ease some of that fear. It is good to practice this abundance theory. You can do this by counting the stars, or admiring all the grains of sand on the beach or feeling the grass beneath your feet and hands.

Another great technique to practice is noticing all the abundances that you have already received. Allow yourself to be thankful for every little thing in your life. Be thankful for your house, your electricity, your heat, your clothing, your plumbing, etc. And even though those things cost money, the universe has given you an abundance of wealth and has given you the ability to be responsible for those things. Thank the universe for allowing those things to encounter into your life and for the opportunities you were given to accept those things. Do not fear your bills, but rather appreciate them because they are a statement of all the things that you have earned through your hard work and trust.

It is also important that we keep an open mind. When our mind is open, more opportunities are drawn to us. It is best to not judge other people and how they spend their money either. By comparing how much wealth you have to another person only increases the gap of “failure.” Even though you have less money than that person does not mean you have failed; however, you are misplacing your energy onto how much you should have instead of how much you will receive. If you do compare money, always keep an open mind and appreciate their hard work and acknowledge their accomplishments. Giving support will only increase the support you receive.

By visualizing prosperity, wealth and abundance, you are sending out to the universe what you could have. Everyday you should tell yourself positive affirmations.

“I am open to all the universe has to offer.”

“I am open to the abundance the universe can give me.”

“Wealth is attracted to me everyday.”

“I bask in wealth and prosperity and I enjoy and receive it whole-heartedly.”

Everyday has the possibility of new beginnings. Rejoice in all of the possibilities and opportunities that are given to you. Recognize each moment as an opportunity to be receptive to wealth and new beginnings. Be open minded and supportive of others and their wealth. Be open minded about your own wealth. Release your fear and instead manifest your energy into the actual process instead of the fear of the process. Be thankful of all the abundances that you already have and thankful for the ones that you are about to receive. Be mindful of how you think about money and wealth. Trust that the universe will give you what you need when you need it. Do not worry about not having enough because your energy is then focused on the ‘not enough’ part instead of the ‘abundance of money’ part. Recognize each day and moment as your next opportunity to accept wealth.

 

Repressing Your Emotions

Repressing emotions is very common and many people do this in their daily lives. If something uncomfortable or traumatic happened, it may be possible to push that memory to the back of the mind so much that you eventually “forget” about it. I put quotations around ‘forget’ because you aren’t actually forgetting about it. The memory is very much present in your mind, you just aren’t completely conscious of it. It may pop up from time to time if something reminds you of it, or if you’re experiencing some of the same emotions that you experienced during that difficult time. Traditional therapy methods mainly help you with coping mechanisms. Coping simply means that you become okay with living with this “thing” that is in your life. Whether this “thing” is depression, abuse when you were a child, a bad accident, etc., you are still living with it and trying to be okay with it.

Holistic Sound Healing allows you to completely change your energy about the situation. Things that you didn’t even know were bothering you may surface and you will be able to view them in a different way. By eliminating some of those repressed thoughts, your mind is open to clearer and more positive thinking. Your depression or anxiety may be linked to one of those repressed thoughts that you didn’t even know you had. By digging out the roots, you are taking the problem away. Holistic Sound Healing will make those intense feelings go away and they will not bother you as much as before, if at all.

Avoiding your problems will only lead to more resent or hardship in the future. By facing your problems you are taking care of your mental and physical health. With a clearer mind and more positive thinking, your body will start to respond in a positive way. You may notice more energy, less aches or pains and a variety of other benefits depending on what you repressed. Taking care of your mind is similar to taking care of your body. You wouldn’t avoid getting a lump checked out on your body; why would you avoid being happy? Don’t wait any longer to rediscover yourself!

Woman and a Fork

Woman and a Fork

There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things ‘in order,’ she contacted her Pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes.

She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in.

Everything was in order and the Pastor was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her.

‘There’s one more thing,’ she said excitedly..

‘What’s that?’ came the Pastor’s reply.

‘This is very important,’ the young woman continued. ‘I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand.’

The Pastor stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say.

That surprises you, doesn’t it?’ the young woman asked.

‘Well, to be honest, I’m puzzled by the request,’ said the Pastor.

The young woman explained. ‘My grandmother once told me this story, and from that time on I have always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement. In all my years of attending socials and dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, ‘Keep your fork.’ It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming…like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance!’

So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder ‘What’s with the fork?’ Then I want you to tell them: ‘Keep your fork ..the best is yet to come.’

The Pastor’s eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the young woman had a better grasp of heaven than he did. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge. She KNEW that something better was coming.

At the funeral people were walking by the young woman’s casket and they saw the cloak she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the Pastor heard the question, ‘What’s with the fork?’ And over and over he smiled.

During his message, the Pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. He told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either.

He was right. So the next time you reach down for your fork let it remind you, ever so gently, that the best is yet to come. Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. Cherish the time you have, and the memories you share.Being friends with someone is not an opportunity, but a sweet responsibility.

Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND…and I’ll bet this will be an Email they do remember, every time they pick up a fork!
And just remember…keep your fork!

The BEST is yet to come!

God Bless You

Discover Yourself

Tuesday July 28th

Tuesday July 28th we will be at Joannes Stadium for The Green Bay Bullfrogs Game! We will have a table set up with more information about what Rediscover Yourself Sound Therapy is and how it can affect your life. Please stop by and see us and take in a ball game!

We will be there at 5 and the game starts at 7:05

Hope to see you there, put your business card in for the chance to win a FREE treatment. A $60.00 value

Thank you

Steve & Bonnie