What I Hear When You Tell Me to ‘Stop Being So Negative’

  

This is a common sentence many of us with mental illnesses get told.

“Just focus on something else.”

“There’s so much good in the world, stop focusing on the bad.”

You don’t think I have tried? For much of my life I have dealt with anxiety and depression.2 This means almost all the time I am either over-catastrophizing, staying on alert for the next bad thing that could happen, overanalyzing every mistake I’ve made, and after all that, getting stuck in a head space that constantly tells me I’m not good enough and never will be. This head space in the past has often led me to periods of self-harm and suicidal thoughts that never get acted upon but are always there in the back of my mind.

This never stops.

When a person tells me, “stop being so negative” it feels like a slap to the face. Basically you’re saying, “You can turn it off, you can choose to focus on something else.” While I may have times where I can put my focus into my friendships, my job, my school life and my hobbies, these things are also stressors and end up leading me back to depression and anxiety. Regardless how many good periods of time I have, depression and anxiety are always going to be there.

So next time you see a person or are talking with them and they are having a difficult time with their depression and anxiety and seem to be focused on the negative, don’t just say, “Stop focusing on the negative,” but instead, maybe ask what you can do to help. If they tell you there is nothing you can do, ask what the negative emotions are focused on? You may want to suggest helpful distractions or ways of coping. The statement “stop being so negative” just makes them feel bad for the depression and anxiety, and that’s honestly the last thing they need or want to hear. You may want to suggest they contact one of the practitioners at Rediscover Yourself to learn of a very successful drug free approach in dealing with these emotional problems.  Have them visit our website www.rediscoveryourselfint.com  and read some of the testimonials written by others who were having similar experiences. We are here to help you get the relief you have been searching for.

How do affirmations work?

Affirmations are little sayings or sentences that you may say to yourself to encourage the growth of that desire. For example, let’s say you want to get more money. You may say to yourself, “I am willing, ready and able to receive money.” But in the back of your mind you might be saying, “This isn’t going to work. This is dumb.” In the end the negative comment is going to trump the positive affirmation.

 

Positive affirmations are a way of life. The way you think is the way you live. If you truly believe that telling yourself positive things won’t work and your life won’t improve, then it wont. However, if you tell yourself that all the positive affirmations will work and they will change your life, then they have a great chance of doing so.

 

Thinking is a habit. If you wanted to quit smoking, you would have to break that habit. Once you officially quit smoking you might have an improved quality of life. You might be able to run longer, stop coughing, have more energy, the list goes on. That is the same way affirmations work. Once you break the bad habit of how you used to think, you will start thinking more positively and positive energy will be attracted to you.

 

Your life will fill with opportunities, happiness, wealth, health and love, just to name a few. So how do you start with these positive affirmations? Well it’s quite simple. Just start telling yourself positive things!

 

Do you want to attract more love? Tell yourself this: I have come to this planet to learn to love myself more, and to share that love with all those around me.

 

Do you want to have more energy? Tell yourself this: Today, I am brimming with energy and overflowing with joy

 

Do you want forgiveness? Tell yourself this: I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them.

 

If you want a better marriage: My marriage is becoming stronger, deeper, and more stable each day.

 

If you want more self-love: I acknowledge my own self-worth; my confidence is soaring

 

If you want good health: I love my body and it is a powerhouse for fueling me. I respect and listen to what it needs.

 

If you want success: My obstacles are moving out of my way; my path is carved towards greatness.

 

These are just a few affirmations. You can find them everywhere and you can even create them yourself. It is so important to watch what you think, because that is what you become. Do not deny your power and your worth!

How to Prosper in your Wealth

We’ve all had moments in our lives where as soon as we get our hands on a little extra cash, something happens where we need to spend it on something we don’t want to. We kick and we scratch at the idea and curse that we are unlucky. We believe that we genuinely cannot get ahead because something will always happen once we do.

 

The universe has a funny way of reciprocating what you give to it. If you are giving the universe these negative thoughts, the universe will only return the favor. If we change our thoughts we might actually start to see a change in the way we receive.

 

Fear is a big factor in a lot of negative situations. We fear that we cannot move forward with positive thoughts because it seems too good to be true. We constantly fear that we will never have enough money. We fear that we will never find love or happiness. Instead of putting our energy into manifesting these actual desires that we fear, we put our energy into manifesting the fear that we have that comes along with those desires.

 

When trying to manifest prosperity, it is important to remember that the universe supplies us with an abundance of goods. It will always give us what we need when we need it. By trusting this process, you will start to ease some of that fear. It is good to practice this abundance theory. You can do this by counting the stars, or admiring all the grains of sand on the beach or feeling the grass beneath your feet and hands.

 

Another great technique to practice is noticing all the abundances that you have already received. Allow yourself to be thankful for every little thing in your life. Be thankful for your house, your electricity, your heat, your clothing, your plumbing, etc. And even though those things cost money, the universe has given you an abundance of wealth and has given you the ability to be responsible for those things. Thank the universe for allowing those things to encounter into your life and for the opportunities you were given to accept those things. Do not fear your bills, but rather appreciate them because they are a statement of all the things that you have earned through your hard work and trust.

 

It is also important that we keep an open mind. When our mind is open, more opportunities are drawn to us. It is best to not judge other people and how they spend their money either. By comparing how much wealth you have to another person only increases the gap of “failure.” Even though you have less money than that person does not mean you have failed; however, you are misplacing your energy onto how much you should have instead of how much you will receive. If you do compare money, always keep an open mind and appreciate their hard work and acknowledge their accomplishments. Giving support will only increase the support you receive.

 

By visualizing prosperity, wealth and abundance, you are sending out to the universe what you could have. Everyday you should tell yourself positive affirmations.

 

“I am open to all the universe has to offer.”

“I am open to the abundance the universe can give me.”

“Wealth is attracted to me everyday.”

“I bask in wealth and prosperity and I enjoy and receive it whole-heartedly.”

 

Everyday has the possibility of new beginnings. Rejoice in all of the possibilities and opportunities that are given to you. Recognize each moment as an opportunity to be receptive to wealth and new beginnings. Be open minded and supportive of others and their wealth. Be open minded about your own wealth. Release your fear and instead manifest your energy into the actual process instead of the fear of the process. Be thankful of all the abundances that you already have and thankful for the ones that you are about to receive. Be mindful of how you think about money and wealth. Trust that the universe will give you what you need when you need it. Do not worry about not having enough because your energy is then focused on the ‘not enough’ part instead of the ‘abundance of money’ part. Recognize each day and moment as your next opportunity to accept wealth.

 

What does your morning routine say about you?

If you’re the kind of person who likes to roll over the minute you hear the alarm and hit the snooze button, you might immediately be setting your day off on the wrong foot. If the first thoughts you have when you wake up are, “I wish I could just sleep more, I don’t want to go to work, I can’t get out of bed or keep my eyes open…” you might be setting yourself up for failure.

Thinking negative thoughts the moment you wake up is setting a negative pattern for your morning routine, which in turn can make your day negative. It is important to always remember that what you give out to the universe is what you receive. So instead of thinking to yourself that you feel too sleepy to do anything, and you just wish you had a few more hours of sleep, start the day off with a grateful thought. This could include thoughts like, “I’m so fortunate to wake up this morning.” Or “I am going to accomplish today.”

Immediately after you think these things, you should get up and start the day. You will feel so much better having a few extra minutes to get ready so you’re not rushed to work. Before you do anything, grab a glass of water and wake up your body by drinking it. By drinking water right when you wake up, you are fulfilling any lost fluids, detoxing your digestive track, waking up your mind and giving yourself energy. This is also a great weight loss technique and many people have found this helpful while trying to shed some pounds.

While you’re body is waking up and adjusting to the rhythms of the day, it is important to eat a nutrient rich breakfast that will keep you full and focused all morning. Hunger increases cortisol levels, aka the stress hormone. If you are already stressed enough with work, arriving there hungry won’t do you any good. It’s also good to pack little healthy snacks throughout the day so you’re not tempted by the breakroom goodies and midafternoon coffee runs. An apple has more natural sugars than coffee and gives you a better boost than the sugar rush you get from your coffee. If you want a healthier alternative, try eating an apple instead of a couple cups o Joe!

Mornings are the platform of your day. If you consistently hate mornings or even state that you hate mornings, you will be more inclined to have a bad morning. Here are some quick fixes to make your morning the best every morning.

  1. Daily affirmations: State what you want in life and how you are going to achieve it. You are what you think, and if you think positive thoughts and goals you will eventually achieve them.
  2. Stretch: If you have a little extra time in the morning stretch before you do anything. It will get your blood flowing throughout your body waking you up and gradually warming up your muscles. Yoga is also a great way to clear your mind and create a positive space.
  3. Meditation: By placing yourself in a relaxed state before the day even starts will allow you to take on many different challenges. Even if you practice for a couple minutes, you are giving your mind a fresh start. Sometimes long nights of sleep can be filled with stress dreams and tossing and turning. This gives you a fresh start.
  4. Prepare the night before: Pick out your outfit the night before. Plan what you are going to pack for lunch. Set up your briefcase or make sure your purse is set up with everything you need. Lay out your towels and robes. Do everything you possibly can the night before. You will feel more available in the morning to focus on things that are more important.

 

Whether you’re a morning person or not, it’s good to practice all of these habits and focus on the positives every morning. This will make you feel healthier and happier as well as giving you a great start to your day!

 

How does Meditating Work?

We’ve all heard that meditating is supposed to relax and balance ourselves and it should be practiced the same way that you blink or breathe-all the time. Meditating is a practice that helps you achieve higher consciousness. It can rewire our brains entirely. It’s been known to ward off health issues and prepare people to handle more in their lives. It is a way to control your emotions. But do we really know how it works?

  1. Gamma State: (30 – 100Hz) This is the state of hyperactivity and active learning. Gamma state is the most opportune time to retain information. This is why educators often have audiences jumping up and down or dancing around — to increase the likelihood of permanent assimilation of information. If over stimulated, it can lead to anxiety.Beta State: (13 – 30Hz) Where we function for most of the day, beta state is associated with the alert mind state of the prefrontal cortex. This is a state of the “working” or “thinking mind” — analytical, planning, assessing and categorizing.3. Alpha State: (9 – 13Hz) Brain waves start to slow down out of thinking mind. We feel more calm, peaceful and grounded. We often find ourselves in an “alpha state” after a yoga class, a walk in the woods, a pleasurable sexual encounter or during any activity that helps relax the body and mind. We are lucid, reflective, have a slightly diffused awareness. The hemispheres of the brain are more balanced (neural integration).

    4. Theta State: (4 – 8Hz) We are able to begin meditation. This is the point where the verbal/thinking mind transitions to the meditative/visual mind. We begin to move from the planning mind to a deeper state of awareness (often felt as drowsy), with stronger intuition, more capacity for wholeness and complicated problem solving. The theta state is associated visualization.

    5. Delta State: (1-3 Hz) Tibetan monks that have been meditating for decades can reach this in an alert, wakened phase, but most of us reach this final state during deep, dreamless sleep.

Bullet points taken from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ashley-turner/how-meditation-works_b_4702629.html

Meditation has been proven to preserve the aging brain and improve memory. It also has shown to increase focus in people and decrease mind-wandering. Mind-wandering can be signs of unhappiness or focusing on the past or future too much. By toning this down by meditation you will start to see things more clearly in present time. Meditation can also have the same effects that medication have on anxiety or depression. It can rewire your brain and increase happy hormones like dopamine or serotonin. Meditation has also shown progress with helping addiction. Meditation “decouples” cravings from the actual act of consuming or doing whatever you are craving.

As you can see, meditation only has positive benefits. It is important that we take care of our minds just the same way we should take care of our bodies. Our minds control every aspect of our lives and if we have an unhealthy mindset, we have an unhealthy life. By making simple changes like meditating or using sound healing, we can bring positive energy back into our lives and raise our vibrations.

The Guilt Game

What is guilt? We’ve all felt it. We all know how it makes us feel. It is one of the worst feelings and can leave you sleepless and sad. Maybe you did something and are too embarrassed to admit it. Maybe you finally realized something and feel like you need to right a wrong. Maybe you feel undeserving and when you finally achieve a goal or receive that item, you no longer feel good, but rather guilty.

Guilt is a funny thing. In a cognitive perspective, guilt is the thought that you have done harm unto someone else. Some people feel this emotion many times throughout the day; some people feel this emotion only once in a while. Researchers and psychologists believe that guilt and the amount of guilt you feel is determined on how you were raised and how you played as a child.

Guilt can be irrational and cause extra anxiety. It can make a situation seem more severe than it really was or it can make you question what actually happened. Sometimes people will experience guilt when they come into a large amount of money. Maybe they got a new job and they are paid very well or someone passed away and they inherited money. They may feel like they are undeserving of this money and they are afraid to have it or use it. This can cause extra distress on that person’s life and it can lead to a domino effect of many other problems.

Some people may also feel this way when it comes to love. That person may have been in a poor relationship in the past and believes that they only deserve a partner who will treat them worse than they treat their partner because they feel too much guilt. They feel like they are a burden so they need to be treated like one.

Guilt can form from a lack of confidence or from a lack of deservingness. These emotions could have been formed from situations in the past, it could have been how someone was raised or it could be from depression or anxiety.

So how do we fix it? Someone who experiences an exponential amount of guilt should practice positive affirmations. For example:

“I am deserving of my wealth/life/job/health.”

“Love is attracted to me because I express love.”

“I am happy and deserving.”

“I approve of myself and my surroundings.”

These are just a few examples of what you can tell yourself to boost your confidence and change the way you think. Through sound healing and positive affirmations, someone who experiences a lot of guilt will see improvements and may even notice their outlook change on situations. Nobody has to suffer through guilt. If you or someone you know is experiencing debilitating guilt or an abnormal amount of guilt, suggest sound healing and positive affirmations.

How to Prosper in Your Wealth

We’ve all had moments in our lives where as soon as we get our hands on a little extra cash, something happens where we need to spend it on something we don’t want to. We kick and we scratch at the idea and curse that we are unlucky. We believe that we genuinely cannot get ahead because something will always happen once we do.

The universe has a funny way of reciprocating what you give to it. If you are giving the universe these negative thoughts, the universe will only return the favor. If we change our thoughts we might actually start to see a change in the way we receive.

Fear is a big factor in a lot of negative situations. We fear that we cannot move forward with positive thoughts because it seems too good to be true. We constantly fear that we will never have enough money. We fear that we will never find love or happiness. Instead of putting our energy into manifesting these actual desires that we fear, we put our energy into manifesting the fear that we have that comes along with those desires.

When trying to manifest prosperity, it is important to remember that the universe supplies us with an abundance of goods. It will always give us what we need when we need it. By trusting this process, you will start to ease some of that fear. It is good to practice this abundance theory. You can do this by counting the stars, or admiring all the grains of sand on the beach or feeling the grass beneath your feet and hands.

Another great technique to practice is noticing all the abundances that you have already received. Allow yourself to be thankful for every little thing in your life. Be thankful for your house, your electricity, your heat, your clothing, your plumbing, etc. And even though those things cost money, the universe has given you an abundance of wealth and has given you the ability to be responsible for those things. Thank the universe for allowing those things to encounter into your life and for the opportunities you were given to accept those things. Do not fear your bills, but rather appreciate them because they are a statement of all the things that you have earned through your hard work and trust.

It is also important that we keep an open mind. When our mind is open, more opportunities are drawn to us. It is best to not judge other people and how they spend their money either. By comparing how much wealth you have to another person only increases the gap of “failure.” Even though you have less money than that person does not mean you have failed; however, you are misplacing your energy onto how much you should have instead of how much you will receive. If you do compare money, always keep an open mind and appreciate their hard work and acknowledge their accomplishments. Giving support will only increase the support you receive.

By visualizing prosperity, wealth and abundance, you are sending out to the universe what you could have. Everyday you should tell yourself positive affirmations.

“I am open to all the universe has to offer.”

“I am open to the abundance the universe can give me.”

“Wealth is attracted to me everyday.”

“I bask in wealth and prosperity and I enjoy and receive it whole-heartedly.”

Everyday has the possibility of new beginnings. Rejoice in all of the possibilities and opportunities that are given to you. Recognize each moment as an opportunity to be receptive to wealth and new beginnings. Be open minded and supportive of others and their wealth. Be open minded about your own wealth. Release your fear and instead manifest your energy into the actual process instead of the fear of the process. Be thankful of all the abundances that you already have and thankful for the ones that you are about to receive. Be mindful of how you think about money and wealth. Trust that the universe will give you what you need when you need it. Do not worry about not having enough because your energy is then focused on the ‘not enough’ part instead of the ‘abundance of money’ part. Recognize each day and moment as your next opportunity to accept wealth.

 

Finding Your Purpose

Many people will sit and wonder what their purpose in this world is. Are they supposed to save lives? Are they supposed to invent the next big science revelation? Are they supposed to be the best parent they can be? It can be draining thinking about your future and everything that you may or may not accomplish.

It is important to take a step back and think about what makes you happy. Does going to your job make you frustrated or uninterested? If so, it might be time to make a change. Are you not so thrilled to be waking up to cold weather and snow every day? It might be time to make the move. Some may say that this is a form of running away from your problems. In my opinion, it’s realizing what is right for you and making that change. Life is fluid and does not stop for anyone. If you are unhappy time will pass by and you will still be unhappy. This is only true if you don’t do anything about it. You need to create your own happiness.

By following your happiness you will start to discover your true passions. Success is defined by the satisfaction that you get out of your work. Someone could win the lottery and not be successful. Someone with a few dollars in their bank account who is working their way through college could be successful. It doesn’t matter your circumstance, as long as you are happy with your progress and the end result.

It’s easy to dream of how you will feel once you “become successful,” but it can be difficult to figure out how to get to that point. This is where Holistic Sound Healing comes into play. By clearing negative thought patterns, opening up your mind, releasing your inhibitions and rediscovering yourself, your thoughts will become clearer and you will have more direction of what you truly want in life. It is easy to create the future that you want. We are what our thoughts consist of. Do you believe you are a lazy person? By believing you are lazy you are becoming lazy. If you believe that you are a successful person you will become successful. It’s easy to trick your brain, might as well trick your brain into becoming something successful and positive.

Waking up every morning and telling the universe that you are ready to find your purpose will give you a head start. You can meditate and do yoga to feel more centered and balanced with your life. Everything happens in due time and your purpose is in the works. Most of the time you are living your purpose without realizing how it’s truly affecting your life. Everything happens for a reason so embrace the process!

The Science of Letting Go

Have you ever sat at your desk or laid in your bed late at night thinking about how upset you were that a certain person did that certain thing to you ages ago? Maybe you do not even realize that you are holding onto something so closely until you see a picture of that person or you hear from them again. Your emotions may catch you off guard and it can be impossible to think about anything else in that moment of time. These are all signs that you are holding onto something very negative in your life. It’s okay to be upset or hurt about something for a period of time. It’s called grieving. You could be grieving about a past relationship, an untimely death, a lost job, etc. There are so many things that have the possibility to grieve over. However, once that grieving period ends and you start to handle your emotions in unhealthy patterns, or worse, you don’t handle them at all- it might be time to make a change.

Harboring those negative thoughts only increases your chance for negative thought patterns to develop. This negative energy that you have allowed into your life is wreaking havoc through your whole system. It can release itself in many different ways throughout your body. It can increase stress and decrease your happiness which in turn can leave you with poor health from the stress and depression or other unwanted emotional feelings. Holding onto something so tightly means you are applying your energy into that situation. You are no longer opening yourself up to a more positive opportunity or experience. You are shutting yourself off to the world around you.

This may all sound like gloom and doom. I can hear you saying, “I don’t want to be sad and stressed. I would love to have new opportunities in my life! I just don’t know how to let go!” All of these concerns lead to the infamous question. How do we let go? If we are constantly thinking about how we want to let go of this situation, we are simply applying more energy into an unwanted topic that will not benefit us. It is important to reach a new mindset where you feel comfortable with thinking about the situation or person. Allow yourself to think of all the happy and sad times and maybe why you’re upset or why you’re sad. Allow yourself to feel those emotions in that moment. Then once you have ran through those emotions thoroughly tell yourself you are at peace with what happened and you are willing to let go. You don’t have to have all the answers right there or feel completely fine, but once you tell yourself that you are willing to let go you are allowing your energy to take a positive turn and help you. The universe will work its magic and help you with the rest. The most important thing to remember though, is that you are willing to let go. Nothing comes easy, but soon after you will find yourself with a lighter heart and a more open mind.

If you are still struggling during the time of letting go, Holistic Sound Healing will be able to help. Sound Healing can remove the negative energy you have towards a situation or person and allow you to alleviate some of the pain or pressure you are feeling. You may start to notice a positive change in your life faster and you may be even more willing to let go.

An important thing to remember is that you are always where you need to be. You may have even ran across this article for a reason. Every day is always a great day to redirect your energy into positive opportunities. It is okay to remember situations or people, but by releasing that negative energy and thought connected to it, you are opening the door to a happier life and a better future.

Addictions

Addictions can plague many people’s lives and have detrimental effects on their health and well-being. Their families suffer, their careers suffer and their mind suffers. Addictions can be caused from a variety of reasons. From getting into the wrong crowd at a young age to coping with depression or other mental illnesses. It’s important to figure out the root cause of this addiction so that person can stop relying on things to fill the void in their life.

Whether the addiction is heroin or alcohol, to cigarettes or diet coke. It’s easy to form that pattern and create a bigger problem than the one at hand. By allowing that addiction to come into your life you are escaping from the internal problem and making it an external one. Once the addiction is in place, you may have no control over your thoughts or feelings and your body forms a dependency.

Most people with addictions don’t even realize they have this addiction and believe it is just a habit that they can stop at any time. They may come to the realization that if they do try to stop it is nearly impossible due to the different chemicals that have effected their brain functioning. This can lead to a spiraling effect where they have no control on whether they can stop it or not. However, some people may not want to stop their addiction at all and have realizations they need to when it may become too late.

Luckily for people with addictions, Holistic Sound Healing exists. By digging into your subconscious and pulling out what is truly bothering you, we are able to extract that void and that addiction.

“After 32 years of this nasty habit, I was ready for another attempt to quit smoking. I was going to try Chantix because I had some results the last time I had done it 4 years prior. (I quit for almost 3 weeks) The dreams I would have when I started taking the product were insanely crazy. I had a list of reasons on why I needed to quit. A friend told me about sound therapy and that it would be the absolute best way to do it without any side effects. The cost of this treatment would add up to the cost of the doctor’s visit alone so I tried this treatment. It was totally painless and very relaxing.  I kicked the habit! I’ve been smoke free for 2 ½ years now without any side effects or irritability issues at all. You will be amazed by the results!”

-SV

This is just one testimonial out of many people we have treated for addictions. It is possible to see results using Sound Healing. It is cost effective, efficient and works immediately. By replacing your body with another drug, you are just transforming your addiction into another form. It will be a constant cycle that will be impossible to break. Taking your inner fears, anxiety or depression and releasing them will open up more room for joy and success in your life. You will have improved health, you will feel happier and you may start to notice improved relationships with your loved ones.

If you or someone you know has an addiction encourage them to try Holistic Sound Healing.