This is a common sentence many of us with mental illnesses get told.
“Just focus on something else.”
“There’s so much good in the world, stop focusing on the bad.”
You don’t think I have tried? For much of my life I have dealt with anxiety and depression.2 This means almost all the time I am either over-catastrophizing, staying on alert for the next bad thing that could happen, overanalyzing every mistake I’ve made, and after all that, getting stuck in a head space that constantly tells me I’m not good enough and never will be. This head space in the past has often led me to periods of self-harm and suicidal thoughts that never get acted upon but are always there in the back of my mind.
This never stops.
When a person tells me, “stop being so negative” it feels like a slap to the face. Basically you’re saying, “You can turn it off, you can choose to focus on something else.” While I may have times where I can put my focus into my friendships, my job, my school life and my hobbies, these things are also stressors and end up leading me back to depression and anxiety. Regardless how many good periods of time I have, depression and anxiety are always going to be there.
So next time you see a person or are talking with them and they are having a difficult time with their depression and anxiety and seem to be focused on the negative, don’t just say, “Stop focusing on the negative,” but instead, maybe ask what you can do to help. If they tell you there is nothing you can do, ask what the negative emotions are focused on? You may want to suggest helpful distractions or ways of coping. The statement “stop being so negative” just makes them feel bad for the depression and anxiety, and that’s honestly the last thing they need or want to hear. You may want to suggest they contact one of the practitioners at Rediscover Yourself to learn of a very successful drug free approach in dealing with these emotional problems. Have them visit our website www.rediscoveryourselfint.com and read some of the testimonials written by others who were having similar experiences. We are here to help you get the relief you have been searching for.
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“You can turn it off, you can choose to focus on something else.” While I may have times where I can put my focus into my friendships, my job, my school life and my hobbies, these things are also stressors and end up leading me back to depression and anxiety I like your this statement and i feel happy when i was try this formula.
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The reason you keep returning to the anxiety and depression is because these have become stored emotions. Until you release these stored emotions, this cycle will continue to repeat itself, building in depth within your body. We all have triggers that can be activated by words, experiences and even thoughts that will feed the negative stored emotions. It may seem like something you will just have to learn to live with but that is not the truth. We have helped so many people overcome these situations by using our methods and frequencies. We remove this negative stored energy, usually with just a few sessions. You don’t have to live a life of looking for ways to control these negative balls of energy that have become stuck inside. We can release them from you so they stop being a problem that will otherwise continue to grow over time.
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I’m going to keep this very short. I’m so glad you brought this up as a topic. I was just told this very thing by someone very close to me and it hurt more than they realize. They went as far as to say they often don’t want to be around me as if I caused my own trauma. I needed to read this. Thank you again
Thank you for responding, stay strong, stay blessed Amalia! Have an amazing day!