Decisions, Decisions

Today I learned a brand new word. I’m sure many of you have heard this word before but for me it was a word that I definitely benefit from knowing. Ambivalence. For those of you who don’t know the definition of ambivalence, it simply means one person having opposing feelings towards the same objective. I know I have a lot of ambivalence in my life, especially when it comes to large and important decisions.

It is easy to fall and stay into the trap of ambivalence. Without making a firm decision, you will never move forward. With indecisiveness comes a long list of other problems. Reading Bob Proctor’s article “Decision” I was able to learn that indecisiveness can be the result of low self-esteem or confidence. Without the knowledge or practice of decision making in the past, it can be easy to stay in a state of limbo. By allowing yourself to stay indecisive, you are opening the doors to an unhealthy mindset filled with powerful emotions. Pretty soon, those emotions can take over different aspects of your life and leave your overwhelmed. Now I know what you’re thinking, “Just because I can’t make a decision means I’m going to become emotionally unstable and overwhelmed?!” It doesn’t necessarily mean that; but indecisions can leave room for a lot of unanswered questions and a sense of unfulfillment. Which in the long run can create more problems and unhappiness. Do you ever find yourself asking these questions over and over in your head?

Should I stay or Should I leave?

Should I do work or lay in bed?

Should I tell them or Shouldn’t I tell them?

Should I cook or go out to eat?

These are mild examples of problems that everyone faces. But ambivalence is prevalent in everyday occasions. Making decisions takes practice and you won’t become good at it unless you practice a lot. Even practicing self-discipline with these small tasks or thoughts can go a long way. Low self-esteem and confidence can lead you to constantly second guessing yourself and whether or not you are making the right decision. Through Holistic Sound Healing, we are able to clear any negative thoughts or doubts you have about yourself so you can reach your full potential. By working on your confidence, not only will your decision making improve, but you will have a better sense of who you are and your purpose in life. Finding yourself and learning to love yourself are huge key steps in developing a happy and healthy lifestyle. And decision-making is the key aspect in having a happy and healthy life. People who are more decisive are proven to have more money, have successful careers, better relationships and are overall happier.

So what are you waiting for? If you or somebody you know is very indecisive or lacking self-confidence or self esteem, you should try or recommend Holistic Sound Healing. By clearing those negative emotions and creating a better sense of who you are, you will have an overall more enjoyable life.

How to Become Confident

Have you ever heard of the term ‘You are what you eat’? Well it is the same with your thoughts! You are what you think. This sounds too easy to be true and often times our society makes problems more complicated than they truly are. However, you can change the way you present yourself just by how you think and act.

It seems like everyone doesn’t have as much confidence as they would like these days. It is easy to go on social media and see someone or something that seems far too impossible to obtain. It’s even worse that you’re comparing yourself to whatever you are looking at! But there are some very few simple steps to gaining more confidence. By doing these steps you will notice increased respect from people, clearer goals and maybe even a happier life!

  1. Dress to impress. Even though image isn’t everything, it is important to present yourself in a way that you will be proud of. So by putting on that new suit or dress you’re really telling yourself that you’re proud of who you are and you respect that by allowing other people to know you are proud of whom you are.
  2. Posture is important. Body language plays a large role in how we communicate. The words coming out of your mouth won’t give the conversation justice if you are not sitting up straight and looking attentive. A slouched position is a sign of defeat and lack of confidence. By elongating your spine in every vertebra you will seem like a more dominant figure.
  3. Speak up and clearly. A voice that shakes and mumbles is a sign of shyness and insecurity. If you are in an important meeting or delivering a message it will be hard to believe or be persuaded by what you are saying. By using a strong loud voice you are allowing people to believe because of your confidence. So speak up, even if it’s scary.
  4. Practice what you preach. By practicing habits that you encourage, you are convincing yourself to believe in these habits or that lifestyle. Even if at times you don’t think you can do something; practicing can make you subconsciously believe you can.

It is easy to get caught up in day-to-day slumps and become overwhelmed by the different forces in life. However, by investing time into yourself you will achieve an even greater sense of fulfillment and enjoy more success in your life. Let’s see how confident you can be!